Infidelity Therapy

Do You Fear Your Marriage Is Over?

• Has an affair sent shockwaves through your relationship?

• Does ongoing stress, anger, and sadness make it difficult to focus on anything else?

• Are you struggling to come to terms with what this means for the future and if there’s a way to move past the breach of trust?

Experiencing infidelity is a life-changing event. Once the initial shock of finding out wears off, grief sets in, throwing your day-to-day life into turmoil. Perhaps you’ve reached an impasse, and you don’t know how to move past it. 

If you’re the one betrayed, your partner may have asked you how they can fix” the situation, which only heightens your agitation. And if you’re the one who cheated, you may simply hope to move beyond this painful moment quickly and wonder why vowing never to do it again isn’t sufficient for your partner. As conflict and disagreement escalate, you may start to feel your only option is separation or divorce.

The Decisions You Make Now Have Long-Term Consequences

With so much hurt, sadness, and shame circulating through your relationship, you may be emotionally exhausted, overwhelmed, and physically sick. However, despite how depleted you feel, you’re facing the biggest decision of your life: Should I stay or should I go? You may worry that if you don’t take a moment to consider all options, the choice you ultimately make could be fueled by high emotions or influenced by family and friends who mean well but have their own opinions.

Fortunately, infidelity therapy is a safe space to come together and find common ground. With a therapist guiding you through difficult conversations, you can rebuild trust, rediscover intimacy, and rekindle your connection.

Infidelity Therapy Gives You The Tools To Restore A Healthier Relationship 

If you’ve been in a committed relationship for a while, you already know that its resiliency wasn’t formed in the easy moments. As unwelcome as infidelity is, we encourage you to utilize this time to explore your relationship holistically. Although it’s painful, arriving at this difficult moment presents a unique opportunity to take stock of what isn’t working, clarify what you truly desire, and take steps to achieve it. 

Not only does therapy allow you to repair the trust that’s been broken, but in affair recovery, you can unearth topics you always wanted to discuss but never felt comfortable bringing up. If you’re willing to do the work and use the tools you learn along the way, you can discover how to forge a stronger relationship.

What To Expect From Infidelity Therapy 

Your counselor will seek your feedback to create a collaborative action plan, ensuring your most pressing concerns are supported with care and expertise. Initially, we may focus on processing the grief caused by the betrayal and prioritize working through strong emotions. It’s also helpful to remind you that infidelity is common, which can aid in easing the guilt and shame you may carry.

Oftentimes, infidelity is the result of years of silence. Rather than expressing your unmet needs, dissatisfaction, and frustration, you may have opted not to bring them up. Perhaps you avoided hurt feelings and uncomfortable conversations this way, but the unintended consequences were loneliness, disconnection, disjointed communication, and a lack of intimacy and vulnerability.  

Working with a therapist, you can explore the underlying issues that made infidelity possible and discover a better way to communicate, especially about difficult topics. We will also expand the definition of intimacy beyond the bedroom, helping you implement tools and strategies to build and maintain a strong love map.

The Modalities We Draw From In Affair Recovery Counseling 

We draw inspiration from leaders in the field of couples therapy, including Esther Perel, Terry Real, Sue Johnson, and The Gottmans. Additionally, we like to incorporate evidence-based modalities, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and attachment-based and solution-focused therapy.

Whatever modality we choose from, your therapist will help you slow down and reflect on what’s most significant to you. By encouraging you to explore internal experiences, we aim to deepen the conversation, expanding on thoughts and feelings rather than getting stuck in cycles of blame and shame that lead nowhere. 

When you’re consumed with pain and shame, it’s hard to imagine that you will ever get past a betrayal. But we’re here to tell you that you can. Like a phoenix rising from the ashes, infidelity therapy can help you forge a healthier, intentional connection with your partner, ensuring your relationship will be stronger than it’s ever been.